And I’m not the one saying it. It’s Allen Frances, Professor Emeritus of Duke University, who for years edited the DSM, the publication that all psychologists and psychiatrists in the Western world (including the United States and Spain, of course) use to diagnose mental illnesses. In other words, any psychologist or psychiatrist who diagnoses someone

Understanding and Overcoming Low Self-Esteem

You’re stupid and incompetent. You don’t contribute anything. No one really likes you and they certainly don’t rely on you. Look at you – is anyone less attractive? Don’t even bother trying, because you’re just going to mess this up like you do everything. If a family member, a friend, or a co-worker talked to
Anxiety – fear, sleeplessness, trembling, difficulty breathing, body aches, chest pain, chills, dizziness, nausea, racing heartbeat – surely all this misery requires medication for relief. Not necessarily. A growing number of studies show that the practice of mindfulness meditation can be as effective as medication for many sufferers. Mindfulness meditation was developed as a medical
The relationship you signed into for life is over. Whether the reason is a break-up, the heartache of divorce, or the agony of losing a loved one to death, you are left alone and wondering how you are going to survive the next day, and the one after that. You will survive, of course you
How comforting it would be in the emotional upheaval following a traumatic loss if there were a prescription for how things should go, an “if-this-then-that” progression. When you can’t think beyond this agonizing moment, surely there’s a flow chart that will make it all easier. Unfortunately, the truth is that grief is messy. It defies
The other day, in a session, a woman spoke to me about this. She was suffering in her relationship with her partner, but she didn’t want to give up on it until she was sure that she’d done “enough” to save it. Until she was sure that she’d exhausted all the possibilities, that she’d done
The most intimate group we’ll ever belong to is the family. It’s where we learn to share and to do battle, to communicate, to negotiate differences, and to celebrate accomplishments. Family is the safe huddle we come home to after a day out in the larger world. Family members provide the mirror that lets us
This is an issue that psychologists and philosophers love to noodle over. After all, unchecked and inappropriate guilt can ruin a life. Some of their assumptions are: The causes of guilt are diverse and complex. Understanding why you feel guilt is important, but it is only a first step in the process of getting your